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As important as the Ceremony is in the overall wedding event, the idea of finding the right officiant for the Ceremony can mystify even the most savvy couples. Some couples know that they want a friend or family member to officiate their ceremony, which can be a very special and personal experience if the officiating friend/family is a good public speaker and does their research to make sure the ceremony has the right components. A recommendation for this situation is the workbook “Asked to Officiate”, which guides non-professional officiants through the necessary steps to write and run a wedding ceremony.
Other couples feel most comfortable hiring a professional officiant and working with them to create the perfect ceremony that is meaningful and memorable. Here are some important notes and tips about finding a professional officiant who is the right fit for you:
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With the Fourth of July weekend a few weeks ago, we can only imagine that quite a few of you headed out of town – or staying in town – for a wedding on that weekend. Are we right?! We knew it!
While there is no “proper wedding ediquette” for deciding whether or not to have your wedding on a holiday weekend, we want to hear what you think about this controversal topic. Check out our list of Pros and Cons for a Holiday Weekend Wedding and then give us your feedback! And don’t forget to hashtag #WednesdayWeddingsWithD4Two
Who should wear tuxedos in the wedding?
It is customary for the groom and his groomsmen to wear tuxedos or nice suits that match the formality of the bride's dress. When the fathers and grandfathers are part of the ceremony, they tend to wear attire that is matches the rest of the party. Ring bearers are always a crowd please when wearing a child-size tuxedo or suit. Occassionally, ushers will also wear formal attire.
Should everyone wear the same tuxedos and accessories?
Just as the bride stands apart from her bridesmaids, the groom often chooses to wear a coat or accessories that differ slightly from the groomsmen. For instance, the groom may wear a traditional coat with neutral accessory colors while the groomsmen's accessories might match the bridesmaids or the theme color(s) of the wedding.
Are there other choices besides tuxedos?
If your wedding style is semi-formal, outdoors, or alternative you may decide to have your men wear suits. Depending on the time of day and setting, there are black, navy, grey and tan suits or ivory linen suits. For beach weddings, some parties choose to wear matching taupe or tan slacks with a special wedding shirt. Overall, the formality of the men should match that of the bride and the rest of the wedding. Tuxedos always make for an attractive wedding party and great wedding photos but there are plenty of other choices to fit any wedding atmosphere.
Does the time of day or wedding location determine which colors to choose from?
Time of day and location (indoors/outdoors, cool/tropical) can play a factor in selecting garments. Most importantly, the color should match the women in the wedding party. Daytime tuxedo and suit choices might be tan, ivory, white, or an ivory linen suit, although some people wear traditional black tuxedos for daytime weddings. For evening weddings, black, navy, grey or pinstriped tuxedos or suits tend to be popular. Be sure to ask about tuxedos or suits that work better for hot or cool temperatures.
Who pays for the tuxedos?
In the vast majority of cases, each member of the party will pay for his own ensemble.
Courtesy of Friar Tux Shop
DARK AND DAPPER
Kristoff tuxedo jacket and Valencia tuxedo pants, Friar Tux Shop; Boss by Hugo Boss black “Marlyn” dress shirt, $125, Bloomingdale’s (Fashion Valley); Club Room black paisley pocket square, $18, and Kenneth Cole neon stud cufflinks, $42, Macy’s (Fashion Valley); Lord Wallington feather “Hawk” bow tie, available for custom order,Vocabulary Boutique.
Marc by Marc Jacobs “Harvey” twill blazer, $398, and “Harvey” twill pants, $228, Bloomingdale’s (Fashion Valley); white textured shirt, $135, Crow Thief; Lord Wallington Hawaiian print bow tie, $65, Vocabulary Boutique.
Floral print short-sleeve shirt, $118, and brown four-pocket vest, $125, and brown trousers, $175, Crow Thief; De Palma “Mon Señor” leather belt, $168, Vocabulary Boutique; Penguin navy plaid skinny tie, $55, Macy’s (Fashion Valley).
DOES IT FIT? “The most important part of any suit is that it fits properly,” says Jerry Klein, owner of A Better Deal Tuxedo in La Jolla. Here are pointers for your guy. -Kateylyn Montero
Dress for your body type.
“Slim-fitting suits are for tall, slender types while contemporary styles have a fuller cut,” says Klein. “A modern-fitting tux is between the two.”
Watch those shoulders.
The shoulder pads should end with your shoulders. If they extend down, then the jacket is too large. Also, pant legs should break on top of shoes.
Make sure you can breathe (slightly).
You should be able to fit one finger between your neck and the collar of your shirt. More than one and your shirt is too big.
When trying on a tux, button your jacket to ensure that it truly fits. No matter the body type, a proper-fitting suit will taper slightly when it hits the waist.
See the cuff.
On a properly fitted tuxedo, the sleeves of the shirt should extend between ¼-inch to ½-inch beyond the jacket’s sleeves.
How should the jacket fit?
While your coat should be comfortable, tuxedo jackets aren't made as athletic wear. In other words, you're not going to have as much maneuveribility as you would in your t-shirt. The shoulder pads should not stick out prominently past your shoulders, and you don't want too much room in the chest and abdomen. If the chest and abdomen fit too close, then the arm pits are going to feel overly tight. If you plan on being in a lot of photos, err slightly on the tight side rather than the loose side.
How should the trousers fit?
The trousers should fit comfortably and ideally should not be restrictive through the rise (crotch) or the waist. Some men prefer a slight break at their shoe, while others prefer them slightly shorter with little or no break. In all cases, the trouser should be worn at the waist and not sagged below. Doing so will result in akwardly pulled pleats.
Help your man find the perfect groomsmen gifts. Cuff links are an ever popular staple at weddings but the rest of these choices are a little more non-traditional. Most of them can be personalized which we love for adding that extra special touch.
Get these items:
1. Travel Bag, Eddie Bauer
2. Cuff Links, Tiffany & Co.
3. Wallet, LL Bean
4. Personalized Whiskey Glass, Wine Enthusiast
5. iphone & Bottle Opener Case, Nordstrom
6. Mustache Flask, Etsy
7. Cocktail in a Box, Etsy
8. Control Talk Headphones, Nordstrom
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Assign your groom something you know is important to him. This way, he’ll be invested in making it tasteful, special, and reflective of you two. These suggestions should make it easy.
The Sweet Toothed Sweetheart
Does your sweetie have a sweet tooth? Let him work with a dessertier to choose the perfect cake, dessert bar, or candy bar for your reception. Entrust him with the responsibility of contacting the dessertier of your choice–that way you will do the legwork and he won’t be left to his own devices.
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